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Fern you need to let them know that you value they thoughts and give them the pro and cons of diets and surgery. Let them know how much you count on their support. This is no gaurentee that they will change their mind, but if you are open and upfront with them let's hope they will back you. My sister was like this and I had to go through it with out her support and after 5 and a half years she has not changed her thoughts. Best wishes, Jenn
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Hi Fern - you probably already know the answer to this right? There's nothing you can do but educate them and then not be bothered by whether or not they understand. Chances are they are worried because they don't know much about it, or about what your life will be like after surgery.
It's good that you know that they love you and mean the best, but you've got to decide what is best for you and live with not being able to please everybody. You'll do fine!
C h e e r s,
gene
It's important to have a support system. But not all family members are supportive of WLS. That's why these forums, support groups, and other friends be available for you. Before you have surgery, attend support group meetings. Join in discussions on these forums. If you don't have friends supportive of the surgery, then I bet you'll meet some at your local support groups. This surgery still requires work on your part. A good support system will help you through any rough spots.
Dave Chambers, 6'3" tall, 365 before RNY, 185 low, 200 currently. My profile page: product reviews, tips for your journey, hi protein snacks, hi potency delicious green tea, and personal web site.
I would not wait until you got a date, if I was you. Just going to a support prior to getting a surgery date can be so helpful. You get to hear a lot things about preparing for wls, the actual surgery day and aftercare. Start now, you will be glad that you did it. Also, if you start now, you bring your family member so that he/she can hear from other people who has had wls and ask questions. Your family member is scared and that comes from not knowing the facts.
Without struggle, there is no progress.
Attending meetings may help your decision to have or not to have surgery. Many attend these meeting for that purpose.
Dave Chambers, 6'3" tall, 365 before RNY, 185 low, 200 currently. My profile page: product reviews, tips for your journey, hi protein snacks, hi potency delicious green tea, and personal web site.
Sometimes you just can't do anything about it. If they are against it, then when you are losing your weight, when you become so much healthier, they will see that is the best thing that you have done. Remember you are doing this for yourself and no one else. Educate them as best you could and just hope for a good outcome that they might change their minds, if not, don't worry about it. There are so many people here that will support and cheer for you. Just dwell on those that support you, maybe they will come around when they realize that they are alone in their thinking.
Good luck, Diane
I was gonna say what Diane said...
I didnt really have anyone naysay me but I know how THRILLED everyone was when my diabetes was gone and I started living a healthy lifestyle.
Unless you are depending on them to help you in recovery, just love them and let them see the results... just don't stress! You dont need that right now...
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